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Mind bets

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Reward & Punishment Techniques for the Mind

I realized I did this (Mind bets) all the time, but I wasn’t aware of the succinct term until recently, due to listening to an interview with Ray Romano (of ‘Everybody Loves Raymond’ fame). Apparently, Ray constantly challenges himself with these bets; as quote in a New York Times article:

 he referred to as “mind bets,” a reward and punishment technique he developed to replace his own wagering habit. “I set a personal goal, like, ‘If I don’t break a 90 at golf, then I can’t watch TV for a week,’ and I get as pumped up as if I had $1,000 on a bet,” he said.
New York Times, 2009

In comparison, I do these mind bets in order to really test my Will power at the end of the day. To challenge what I can actually go through and manage – maybe I am testing myself for one day becoming tortured for information by Guerillas in a desolate jungle and resisting the interrogation methods of my captors (Yes, I’m extreme). But in more probable terms I believe that I conduct these mind bets in an attempt to keep the mind in a state of readiness; to not be so complacent – the future is unpredictable and I may have to go through something that will take a lit of units of Will power to get through. And with anything, practice is a necessity for success.

If you have any Mind bets that you’d like to share, please share in the comments.

. : : LiBM::.

Platform Specific Businesses

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There are many tech start-ups that aim to solve a problem by utilizing technology. Most of these start-ups emerge from ‘The Valley’ out in California where Venture Capitalists and wealthy folk throw money hoping to have the next FaceBook or Twitter on their hands – businesses with no real solid business model that makes no money outside of advertising (but I will save that rant for another post). A lot of the start-ups are uber niche – niche is a good thing as a small company does not have the resources to take on a big sector of an industry or market. But I always often wonder the logic that some start-ups take when they support their Web app native app from one platform over the other – especially when the barrier for entry is very low – very low. (Instagram and Vine are examples of apps that were iOS first before Android)

I’m not necessarily talking about the 1-3 start-ups that are working on their apps out of a Coffee house or Momma’s business, but I’m referring to the start-ups that have some funding such as Airbnb, Instagram, Uber, etc.. The dominant mobile platforms are Android and iOS, and many start-ups will usually embrace iOS before they go to Android (though that is slowly changing). But let’s look at how much it costs to publish an app in iOS App Store and Google Play:

  • Google Play – $25/year to publish app
  • Apple App Store – $99/year + SDK/NDK fees ($250)

It is actually cheaper to publish an app on Android than on Apple – now, there isn’t much of a difference there in my opinion, and I would postulate that most sane people would say the same. So the other important factor is programming – and let’s be honest there are many tools that devs can use to port their code OR they can code in HTML5 and JS and use many wrappers. Or if you really want to go native, then there is not a big hurdle in finding native developers, and to be honest most start-ups should have at least 2 devs that can cross-program iOS and Android.

So then if that isn’t the answer, we have to look at the psychology of targeting specific platforms (or at least I choose to ‘take it there’).  To be blunt, there is a perception that iOS is perceived as ‘high class’ in part due to its pricing from Apple. For this article’s sake, let’s just say a snobbery attitude exists hat has been cultivated quite cleverly by Apple that posits something to the effect of “Apple products are for those that prefer the finer things in life with”. From a marketing perspective that is not necessarily that bad because as humans, well in Western society especially, we have a desire to attain opulence and the finer things in life – from as a child with our fascination with Barbie’s and Hot Rods to our adult wishes of BMW’s, designer clothing, big houses, we have been receptors of marketing messages that promote this message. Some of us will spend our money, even when we don’t even have it, to go line-up at the Apple Store at the launch of a new iPhone or iPad. Developers tap into this murky technological psychology of brand perception and exacerbate this phenomenon – as technically, there is nothing that separates what an iOS vs an Android app can perform (the arguments even suggest that you can do more with an Android app). So the issue boils down to something that may seem confusing to someone that is rooted by economics of scale – though there are technically more Android devices out there, let’s produce an app for the platform that ‘appears better’, because we look down on the other platform.

Snobbery exists everywhere – even with something as simple as an ‘app’ – there are social complexities that exist.

.::LiBM::.

5 Days of Therapy Trailer

When Therapy goes Wrong, for the Therapist

Please check out my Trailer for ‘5 Days of Therapy’.  I thought it would be interesting to explore the therapeutic process from the Therapist’s point of view. Everyday they sit and listen to various problems & issues that gripe the mind & heart – this film explores what happens when a Therapist is unable to separate her work & personal life. Everyday she has a new patient, a new problem; which she tries to solve in her own personal life, and with her own personal relationships. It becomes increasingly apparent throughout the days that even though she is helping patients, she needs help herself.

This abstract trailer was shot to illustrate and showcase the direction of where the film will be heading, and the subsequent issues that will be explored.

I wrote the original screenplay, and shot the trailer in late 2012, and I am looking for funding avenues.

To find out more information about this project and how you can contribute, please visit: http://igg.me/at/5days/x/2289489

.:: LiBM ::.

On the Strength Of

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Recently had to ask some people that I work with a strange request: “can I have a woman dump a bag of flour on you?”. Yes, the bag of flour that you make bread & cake with. At first, I thought that I would be looked at as a ‘madman’ – or to some, ‘madder’, but I decided to ask anyway. Sometimes I was hesitant, other times I was blunt with it. I found out that most people at first found the request strange – as I expected. Some said ‘nah’, which I knew was gonna happen, however more people than I thought actually agreed. No compensation was offered, nothing was promised, which led me to ask the question as to why they would agree to such a request. And the only answer I could possibly fathom is the apt title of this post – ‘on the Strength of’.

One could only agree to such a request if they fully believed and supported the individual making the request. This had me almost kinda baffled because sometimes, or most times, I question and doubt my self, ideas, and concepts, but it is almost overwhelming (don’t worry, not gonna cry) to know that there are a group of people around me that will ‘ride for the cause’, primarily because they believe in ‘YOU’. And its odd, and something that I have to change. I should be my biggest believer in my self before anyone else is. We all should aim to have that same mindset.

.:: LiBM ::.

Unresponsiveness is a Response

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Feedback Loop w/ no FeedBack

Insecurity Intelligence

In any system, there exists certain rules that dictate how that system operates. In Computers, when a user selects an application to open, the OS must find the files, execute the code, send instructions to RAM and so on. Everything has to be responsive in the computer in order for the application you selected to show up on your screen – when that application doesn’t show up, something in the system is unresponsive. And that can really be frustrating to the user, especially if its an app that you really need. To correlate this to the ‘real world’, I’m coming to terms with ‘unresponsiveness’ from people, especially in group dynamics. I used to give people the ‘benefit of the doubt’, and make excuses for their unresponsiveness, but I think its a lost cause. Not only are they unresponsiveness to your stimuli (thought, idea, email, txt), but they are unresponsive to YOU, as a person. And when you have a ‘team mindset’, you should operate with a ‘consensus’ attitude – I operate with that ‘ebb & flow’ of communications, ideas, and debates. But when you put out ideas & concepts to your team, and you got to cattle prod them for a response, I’m learning that the cattle prod isn’t necessary. At this stage, you are looking more for ‘Validation’ than a ‘Response’, and that is a sign of one’s own insecurity. Insecurity is what holds us back, doubt ourselves, and causes strain on relationships. A BlackBerry slogan tagline goes something like ‘Action Starts Here’, which is their little red asterisk on a message, remove the corporate intent, and it can be said that ‘action’ should begin at a stimuli – and maybe some people are just better at action than others … And for the others that aren’t as ‘better’ than one whom is, don’t let their ‘inaction’ slow you down or sway your motivation or cast doubt.

Maybe I’m babbling here, but anybody that has been in a team environment on a startup business can probably relate. Share your stories about unresponsiveness in the comments below.

.:: LiBM ::.

Laugh about it

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Keep Calm, and Laugh On

Sometimes you just have to ‘Laugh About It’ – at situations that involve yourself. Specifically the situations that you act indifferent over; like it can go either way, and either way it goes you won’t get overly worked up about it. They say that laughter is a ‘medicine’ to life’s stresses & ills – which I agree, there have been studies that show that when we laugh, chemicals are released in the body that relaxes us – with the end result being that we experience momentary happiness.

Personally, I sometimes have to laugh at the situations that I find myself in, but more specifically the disparity of the narratives in my head. To explain further, pretty much the differences of how I think of a situation or a person, and how that person thinks of it. Being one that is creative, likes to write narratives, storylines, and characters, its no wonder that that brand of thinking has fused over into how I see/construct my personal relationships with people. I’m one to write narratives with metaphors, deep subtext, and immersive correlations – which are great on paper or in a scene that you Produce; but it doesn’t translate that well in the real world. People don’t pick up on the subtle nuances so easily, and its damn near impossible for them to pick-up on the narrative that you are trying to construct with them – so rather than the relationship being an indie film with intricate metaphors & creative subtext/sub-plots, its best to keep it a blockbuster movie – make sh*t clear and transparent as possible to understand. Another case of ‘dumbing it down’, and for myself – not being able to realize this, I definitely have to ‘Laugh About it’.

Lessons learned, one chuckle at a time. Well, one chuckle at yourself at a time. As always, I try to correlate these little anecdotes of me to a greater scale, so here are some reasons why its good to ‘Laugh About it’, when situations.

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Hearing that you are “Not the Father!” on Maury
Man trying to get womans attention
The Ugly Girl that has stalked you for months, finally finds YOU as being ugly and undesirable
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Stressing over that exam that you thought you did so poorly on, but you actually passed it with flying colors
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Finally mustering up the courage to tell that girl that you like her, and she feels the same way

 

These are all situations that we have a tendency to feel great cognitive dissonance with, as we battle with the extremes in the situation & all of the possible outcomes that may transpire. So in the end of this rabbling-fest, remember to ‘Laugh About it’, and ‘Laugh at yourself’, because most of the situations that we have battles with are not that serious and if we got over our own personal insecurities, our future self would probably slap our present self for being so timid and scared to take risks …. Oh, and more importantly, our future self would laugh at us, which would mean the future self is laughing at our self.

.:: LiBM ::.

Accountability

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Where art thou Consequence

First, ‘Breaking Bad’ has to be thee best, or one of the best TV series on air right now. This post is in reference to the episode ‘Problem Dog’, where ‘Jesse’ sits in an Addiction Help Group where he comes to a revelation regarding self-help. He poses the question, “So, if we just do stuff, and nothing happens, what does it all mean? What’s the point?”. He is referring to the idea of ‘accountability’ and ‘consequences'; see, Jesse had been doing some sinister actions and yet he hadn’t been held accountable and received no consequences (jail, retribution, etc.); and he is questioning what it all means – why do some people get to do things and suffer no consequences for their actions? By consequences, I’m not necessarily referring to the ‘negative’, but I sometimes think we are increasingly living in an era, where people are doing wild/outlandish things, saying things – but no one questions and/or holds them accountable. I guess the question of accountability has always existed, with the rich & powerful using their status in of itself as a rationale for not being held accountable – they believe they have a certain sense of self-entitlement to say or do things ‘just because’ they can, and no consequence can affect them.

It is almost like we are in the ‘Wild Wild West’ of Free Speech:

Chief Keef
– openly talks about on-going investigations

Kim Kadarshian
– we all know her rise to fame, and now she has a fragrance line

The Game
– Videotaping a beatdown of ’40 Glocc’ (yes, that’s his name)

But I find with the rise of Social Media and our increasingly ‘free expression’ (which there is nothing wrong with that), that no longer does this sense of ‘fleeting accountability’ can be reserved for the rich & powerful, but can be reserved for the average Joe & Jane. You can go on the social networks and see the constant nonsense of people spewing out comments, recklessly, as if they feel they can say what they want, with out feeling they have to back-it-up with something called ‘substance’ or ‘logic’. Is this something that I am just seeing? Or can anyone else out there relate?

Free Expression is a beautiful thing, it really is, many nations are currently fighting & dying for it as we speak, but let’s not believe we can just say things and not be held accountable for it. Every action should have a consequence to it, or a re-action; such is the law of nature, a law that we all abide by.

.:: LiBM ::.

Catering to your preconceptions of Others

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Cater to what I think you want

Don’t know if I have a lot to write about this, as I’ve just been able to encapsulate this thought into easy digestable words. But I’m sure that I’m not the only one that holds back on saying things for fear of thinking what others might do and/or think. I guess it could be some sort of a chess strategy, but in doing this, it also builds cognitive dissonance; and if its one thing I’ve learned after spending thousands of dollars for a Psych degree is that Cognitive Dissonance is a Bitch – to put ot mildly. Yet, I for some reason, even knowing the bitch that Cognitive Dissonance is, still deal with trying to predict what others believe. And when you cater to what you think other people believe and such,this can turn you into some sort of a ‘Shape Shifter'(Compartmentalizing), as you try to project the best image that suits whom you are trying to impress.

Ahhh, does that make sense? As I write this, it makes more & more sense, and I feel more & more disgusted that I am probably not alone in this concept – collectively, we do this all the time, presenting different self’s to different people in hope to persuade them or something. Or maybe its a form of bamboozling – either way, its a way of detaching from one of your self’s, probably your true self. So when you hear the phrase ‘oh, she ain’t being herself’, it can also translate to say ‘she is trying to cater to what she thinks you want’ – and this is the slippery slope that we glide down, daily.

Don’t know how much further I can go with this rant, but if anyone out there can relate, feel free to share your thoughts.

.:: LiBM ::.

Flippin’ the Neediness

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Flip the Neediness?

A method to dump your partner w/o being the ‘Bad Guy’

I’m sure we all have had that experience of being with someone that just became too needy over time; at first their needy behavior was ‘adorable, but then it grew into a weird beast that is both weird and sometimes creepy – with constant text messages and phone calls. Well, there are a couple of ways to deal with the needy:

  • Drop ‘em like its hot – the fastest & equally coldest method
  • Tolerate – answer the constant text messages/phone calls
  • Flip the Neediness – YOU become the needy one!
Now this is the one that is most interesting, ‘Flippin the Neediness’. Defined by comic Justin Laite, this is the process of becoming even MORE needier that your needy partner so that they start realizing that YOU are the neediness and with the hopes that they eventually dump you because they can’t handle your needy behavior any more.  So for instance if they call you 5 times a day, then you start calling them 20 times a day.  Send them over 50 text messages a day; describe your toast, coffee, brunch, lunch, and so on.  ‘Like’ and comment on all of their FaceBook posts everyday.  Eventually, they should be sick of you and will start to think that YOU have a problem.  This is almost an ideal situation if it works because it removes the burden of dumping someone that is emotionally unstable.  Classic.
Has anyone tried this before? What has been your findings? I would presume it would be awesome.

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Starring Comedians:
Sylvana: @sylvanasays
Justin Laite: facebook.com/justin.laite
Produced by Urban Comedy Network

Oppositional Disorder

Oppositional Disorder

Hate, Misdirected

I think this may be a trait of good ‘ol haterism, oppositional disorder is one of those created theories to describe the tendency of people to just oppose anything – any argument, no matter how logical and plausible the argument is, they will still oppose. And you may get to thinking, “Damn, Rhonda is just a bitch; that bitch opposes anything”, and yes, she may be a Bitch, but she is not necessarily opposing your arguments, but she is opposing the idea of ‘you’, and anything that you stand for, or utter. And this oppositional disorder tendency is prevalent throughout society; we have examples of oppositional disorder characters all over.

Politics
– I’m sure the initial ideals of politics are nothing like the current political landscape, because now politics are only about directly opposing the position of your competitor. Even if one party fundamentally agrees with a proposed policy or bill of another party, they will find/create some flaw to oppose it.

News Pundits
Though the environment is created by the news producers, but most news shows focus on discussing a topic, having one person from the left, one person from the right, and having the news anchor moderate the argument between the two – that makes for ‘Great TV’

Most Parents vs Adolescents
I’m sure most teenagers and youth feel that their parents just ‘hate’ and oppose everything they wanna do, and similarly, I am sure that Parents feel the same way – as their children that they have raised from birth, whom are now forming their identity and opinions, seem to oppose each & everything they say.

Flirting
Believe it or not, the oppositional disorder can be used in the romance department. To create intrigue, mystery, and conversation going strong – just oppose what she says, because 9 times out of 10 she will be wrong, and it creates a case for you to show off your wonderful rhetoric skills (make sure you have such skills before attempting)

In all, the oppositional disorder is all over, and if you oppose anything I said in this piece, then you have the disorder too.

.:: LiBM ::.

Push Back and Management

Management Tales 101

Gotta give a shoutout to all Managers of the Independent Artists out there; management is a real tough gig. By definition of the job itself, Management is working for others, and hoping to fulfill their wishes and intent to the best of your capacity; so thus, you are working for people that already think highly of themselves and are a tad bit self-absorbed.

And the management of independent artists is a whole different beast I imagine; as the artist(s) are also co-managers, and necessarily do not have to take heed to your comments and recommendations. As most artists already have a ‘beautiful roadmap’ as to how they will make it in the game. The best thing you can do as a manager is to try and offer advice and constructive criticisms; though this may be a bit hard, because as a manager you are by very nature/definition a ‘control freak’ and/or have control issues – so not having free control over whatever you are managing, can prove to be frustrating.

So, here are a list of resources and potential problems with solutions for dealing with your independent artists:

Recording
How to deal with artists not recording and/or sticking to their schedule?

This is tricky, because part of the reason they may not be recording is due to lack of creativity, or due to laziness. So to sift through this if you are experiencing recording problems, is to stop making the schedules for them, and tell the artist(s) to start scheduling their own damn schedule – this way you can test their seriousness and work ethic.

Promotion & Brand Visibility

What do to with artists whom are not engaging and interacting with fans?
Some artists think that they just make music and perform – and that’s it. But in this day of age, I would liken artists as brands – and their are many ways to manage and promote your brand, and more importantly engaging and communicating with your followers/fans. With the range of tools that are available to us, it is easy to engage in ‘CRM’ (Customer Relationship Management) with a brands following, here are some good tools:

    HootSuite – scheduled sending of tweets (offers free & PRO accounts), and has mobile apps on BB, iOS, Android
    http://www.hootsuite.com
    Gmail – the amount of tools and features that gmail has makes it easy to send and respond from any computer or device
    http://www.gmail.com
    Google Voice – Allows you to get a virtual number that you can use as a business number; and can be managed via your Google gmail account.
    http://www.google.com/voice


Miscellaneous & Organization
Other things to help keep you organized:

    Notebook: bring these to meetings and document major goals and ideas so that in the future you can go back to these failed goals and see ‘what went wrong’
    Calendar: Usually everyone has a smartphone, so teach your artist(s) about how to use the calendar function (you’d be surprised how many people that have smartphones don’t use this feature). And for important events and milestones, add several reminders so that they can’t say ‘I never knew’. I love the Calendar, its a fail-safe bullshit meter

If you have any other items that I may have missed, please feel free to comment and let me know – heck, I’m still learning myself.

P.S.;  and I guess the greatest asset to have is PATIENCE, as you deal with some things and thoughts that make no logical sense.